Your sex drive has been lacking lately and you are simply not sure why or what to do about it. Many options exist that may work for some but the idea of them simply does not sit right with you. You think there may be more going on under the surface, but not necessarily physically. This article will discuss some psychological issues that cause low libido. We will also explore when to seek professional therapy. We will also explore the different types of therapy available.
Relationship Problems
Whether you have been in a relationship a months or decades, you can run into issues that can hinder the connection between yourself and your lover. These tense moments can dull even the most exciting of sexual relationships. If they are not handled maturely and responsibly by both parties, it can be the beginning of a long, stressful relationship, further hindering the endorphins brought on by love.
It should also be noted that even though there may be no serious strains on the relationship, simply being together for lengths of time has been found to be a contributing factor in the waning of sexual desire.
Previous Abuse
Survivors of abuse often have sexual dysfunctions early in their relationships. Certain studies show that those in long term relationships that have been abuse, function nearly the same as those who have not been abused. This could be for a couple of reasons. Perhaps older people have dealt with the demons of abuse and have healed themselves for the better. On the other hand, based on other research, it could be that the longer a couple is in a relationship, the less likely they are to carry on the wanton ways of early life.
Individual Counseling
If you are a survivor of abuse, have developed lousy habits in communication with your lover, suffer from depression or a low self-image, individual counseling may be of benefit for you. The therapist will help you resolve the negative emotions surrounding the experiences you have had and lead you to a new healthier you, ready for love in every aspect.
Couples Counseling
If the relationship seems to be falling apart around you, your communication together is always explosive, or you have been harboring grudges for an undisclosed amount of events or time, couples counseling to help you and your lover bury the hatchet and strengthen your bond may be the best option for you. In so doing, you and your lover may once again feel the energy and joy that was abundant in the early days of your relationship.
Sex Therapy
If your relationship is otherwise healthy, perhaps you need a new take on sex. The sex therapist is a professional psychologist that is trained in sexual dysfunctions. Said therapist can help you pinpoint exactly where the problem lies. He or she may also assist you in making changes in your relationship, while subtle, can increase the heat with practice. In extreme cases, a surrogate may be implemented to test the libido in those clients otherwise unresponsive.